In Steve Chandler’s ebook, “How to Get Clients,” he reminds us over and over again that no one ever got a client without a conversation.
Yet, every day, I talk with coaches and other service professionals who want to know the best way to get clients WITHOUT having to talk with them! They want to know how to create a better LinkedIn profile, what to write in their newsletter, how to get more traffic to their website, if they should write a book or ebook or my personal favorite: how they can use Law of Attraction.
While each of those activities could attract clients, they certainly won’t if we aren’t also excited about having the conversation that moves the potential client to hire us and become a client. It’s also easy to fall into the trap of overwhelming ourselves with so much marketing and self-promotion that we have no time or energy left to have the quality conversations that lead to people hiring us.
Why does it feel so attractive to hide behind social media, our blog, our website, the articles we write? Fear. If we send out an ezine, it’ rare that we hear “no.” We may see a few “unsubscribes” or have a low “open rate,” but we don’t have to hear, “I’m hiring someone else.” Or, “I can’t afford you” (read: I don’t see enough value in what you offer.)
If we allow ourselves to step past the fear and into the conversation, if we don’t take a “no” as personal rejection, but rather practical information, then we have created a rich environment to focus on the potential client, which already increase the odds of them becoming a client . . .
I have had a desire for awhile now to get to the bottom of the Law of Attraction (LOA). For many years, I’ve had a love/hate relationship with it.
On the one hand:
I believe and know that like attracts like. I do know that LOA is all about feeling, that the only reason I desire a red BMW or a red hot lover is so that I can feel something different than I feel without the car and the guy. Maybe I believe I’ll feel more powerful with the car and more cherished and beautiful with the guy. Jeannette Maw of goodvibecoach.com, one of my favorite LOA coaches, says simply, “feel now how you would feel then.”
Okay, so I do something now that helps me feel powerful, cherished or beautiful, then along comes the car and the guy because like attracts like. And, even if the car or the guy doesn’t arrive instantly, I have already gotten to feel more powerful, cherished and beautiful, which is what I felt I wanted in the first place.
On the other hand:
What I haven’t been so sure about: if I feel groovy, skip and hum my way through life, feeling powerful, cherished and beautiful, then all good things will come to me? What if the car turns out to be a pain? Do I know that car is best for me? Is my highest goal in life to feel good as much of the time as possible? What do I do when I feel bad?
I found some answers that feel deeply true for me in the book, “The Translucent Revolution,” by Arjuna Ardagh . . .
He talks about translucent art not coming from the artist's personality, but rather through it. I realized that many of the things I would love to feel are for my personality rather than through it. When I desire feeling powerful, cherished and beautiful, that satisfies my personality. That's where my unrest came in. I just knew there was more.
Had I ever felt anything that came through my personality?
Yes. Yes, I have. Only a few times in my life, all in the past few years. I felt a feeling so delicious, so complete, so peaceful, so powerful/cherished/beautiful all at once. I can describe it only as Oneness and that description falls short.
I felt it:
- while reading a passage from "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolle
- after a lecture by Eli Bear
- while test-driving a BMW
- during some yoga classes
- while spooning with my lover in syncronized breathing
- while laying on the ground under a tree
- during some Dances of Universal Peace
- while soaking up the New Mexico desert
- after reading a passage in "The Translucent Revolution."
This feeling came through my personality, transcended my personality. It feels so rich and so complete that it has become my most important intention to allow myself to feel that Oneness more and more. I know it can be felt in any moment.
The keys seem to be:
- Allowing
- Being fully present
- Detachment
I have no idea if this is a complete list. I am open to learning more. I would love your input. Have you experienced something like what I describe as Oneness? What have you noticed allows you to experience it more frequently?
